Archive for October, 2009

October 28th, 2009

There were incidents and accidents. There were hints and allegations

One of the most interesting parts of planning a wedding is the “Oh hey, I know so and so who does $foo” or the equally amusing, “Oh hey, did you know so and so family friend does $foo and is really darn good at it?” I’ve had a lovely surprise of that sort over the past week which cemented itself today. For this, I am both happy and thankful.

In the myriad of wedding blogs that I’m reading, I see so often that people have someone in the wedding party who is a florist or decorator or wedding planner or just downright craftastic. I am not craftastic. My wedding is in another state so even if I happened to be craftastic, the notion of hauling a ton of anything to Colorado is daunting. My wedding party, also not local to the wedding venue, is not craftastic. My Mom and sister-in-law, who are local, are both scrapbooking sorts but after looking at the cost to make invitations vs. buying them… buying.

Seeing all the amazing and lovely DIY wedding bits and pieces certainly makes me want to be crafty, but alas, I am not. Well, I made a scarf last winter, but rather than trying to be magically and suddenly crafty, I’m investing my energies (and injuries which I typed instead of typing energies and I find amusing) in finding unique and wonderful creations by others. I’m also quite intentionally seeking extra creative license enabled input from those who are creating the variety of crafty things that a wedding entails. Granted, that means I’ve been extremely thoughtful when selecting vendors; I’m placing a lot of trust in their judgement.

So, while I won’t have the wonderful homey creative air that DIY can bring. I will have fostered creative inspiration and given myself room to breathe (and not worry about getting various projects done at the last minute). I think the breathing room is more important to me right now.

October 25th, 2009

Busy, busy brains

Between work and my personal life, my brain is feeling kind of full at the moment. I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fake/real fiancé-ness (which is bounding closer to real every day). Let me explain… as far as we’re concerned, we’re engaged, but we want both sides of the family to feel comfortable so we bumped the official engagement timeline until after everyone has had a chance to meet – Thanksgiving.

It hasn’t stopped us, or I should say me, from beginning the planning process. Prior to the fake fiancé, I had put little (if any) thought into a wedding. I didn’t really have a clue where to start. Thankfully, my google-fu is strong. Translate that as, ‘I started voraciously consuming wedding blogs and any other information I could find.’

My foray into wedding information pretty much confirmed what I expected. Wedding’s are an expensive proposition. I wasn’t planning on anyone in particular contributing so I set out to have a teeny wedding and that’s where the choices started.

First, what state? I live in Minnesota. My parents and my brother+sister-in-law+3 kids live in Colorado. The fiancé’s family lives in Michigan. I decided Colorado made the most sense since. I decided to have my teeny wedding in my parent’s backyard. That plan didn’t last long.

While an extremely small wedding would have included the bulk of my family, it would have left out nearly all of his. Plus, I was informed by both sides that I wasn’t going to be the sole contributor. I was forced to rethink my position. Truthfully, I wanted to do something slightly larger, I just couldn’t fund anything bigger than 40 or so by myself.

After some discussion the guest list increased to 140 (or so) and my Mom sent me a magazine with Colorado wedding venues. After being further horrified by price tags and ridiculous requirements, I found a place I not only liked but which was exciting. They just didn’t have the date I wanted. After some brief discussion, I was convinced to be date-flexible and book the place I really wanted rather than make the reverse compromise. A smart choice, I think.

So, we went from 40 to 140, from backyard to restaurant, and from one date to another. But wait, there’s more…

October 22nd, 2009

Best-laid plans

Next Thursday, the fake fiancé’s parents and my Mom will be here. We had a grand plan. Both sides of the family were going to meet for the first time at Thanksgiving, but then life happens and family convenes in the Minnesota hobbit hole otherwise known as my apartment.

I’m glad they’ll be here. Their presence is definitely wanted and frankly needed at the moment. Honestly, I think it might make Thanksgiving go more smoothly.

October 10th, 2009

Bon appetit!

The fake-fiancé and I went to see Julie & Julia last night. Julia Childs is one of those larger than life figures from my childhood. We watched her cook fabulous and mouth-watering delicacies and imagined what it would be like to make them ourselves. Once I had my own kitchen, I bought Baking With Julia and attempted to learn how to bake. Unlike Julie Powell, I didn’t bake my way through the book. I did, however, increase my baking confidence to the point where I actually made croissants – more than once. I’m still amazed at how much butter you can work into dough.

So after watching the movie and once again being inspired by Julia, I think I may need to find a copy of Mastering the Art of French Cooking. I will not, however, be killing a lobster, making aspics, or deboning a duck.

Julia Child’s Perfect Omelet